What I would say to someone struggling with his or her dreams:
By James Wadman
I have long advocated the biological and metaphysical significance of reoccurring dreams and the enlightenment that can be gained from paying attention to the storylines, the characters, and the emotions of your dreams. Despite the skepticism by many other scientists on the relevance of dreams to the waking consciousness or deeply seeded emotions, I would argue that, relevant or not, dreams can be inspiring as long as you are there to listen. However, there come times when reoccurring dreams challenge us, and they may fill us with fear or contempt, and it becomes difficult to listen – or the message is so loud that it hurts. The funny thing is, these are the dreams that are easiest to pinpoint to our actual emotions and fears, and addressing these emotions can allow you to confront your nightmares both in daylight and at night.
Identifying the real world problem is the first step, which requires a different strategy for each person—that is, a lighthouse will not always mean the same thing from person to person. If you can’t identify it, that is okay. We can still move on to the next step. I have the pleasure of seeing many people who talk on this subject execute the next step perfectly, and that is to face your dreams with strength. If you are honest with your fears of the subject matter or of your dreams in general, you are already working toward overcoming your nightmares. Fear of your dreams is never a reason to not sleep because then you will never get the chance to face your dreams. This is where the road may diverge for some people. The final step is to actually confront your dreams after contemplating the dream’s value in the real world. For some people this will mean having that dream one last time and never seeing it again, and for others that reoccurring dream will never truly go away but they will have the strength to face it whenever it surfaces.
The skeptic says, “Why is this important? After all, they are just dreams.”
Actually, it is more than that. So many people in the modern world burden stress that is too difficult to face, one of the obvious and most detrimental examples being post-traumatic stress disorder, and some of the more common examples being childhood/family issues, break-ups, and stress from the hierarchy of their job/career. All of these examples encompass emotions that can backpack straight into your dreams.
As always, I am available for questions on these guides and Q&A’s. Just leave a comment and I’ll get back to you with a comment or an entire post like this one!